When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions... She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully..
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Marriage ♥♥♥
One of my friend tagged me name in this article on facebook and I find it very touching. Hence, I've decided to share it with all of you :)
Saturday, April 11, 2009
She is my Cryptonite -♥♥♥
Hola ! I'm bloggin' today ! :P Been MIA from blog for a while coz I'm so da' occupied with work.
Anyway, to be frank wif all-of-ya, the reason am blogging today was because I'm now chatting back with Miss C :) After I gave her the X'Mas gift (Refer to: At least I've tried ♥♥♥), we didn't really talk ... well, I sms here, tarak reply. I msg her on MSN, also tarak reply, heh :P
For those who know me personally, I'm sure all of you know that am a guy who has control over myself but you know what? am still nervous whenever I chat with Miss C on MSN :(
If I were to distribe mahself & Miss C then it would be that "I am superman and she is my cryptonite" (I know it is spelled as Kryptonite, need not correct me. I purposely spell it this way)
*Sigh* It's been a while since am "love sick" like this and being a practical kinda guy like me, I think this is like the 1st time in my life that I actually make up my mind to wait for a girl who might not even give me a chance to get to know her better. I've been waiting for more than 100 days now (counting from the day I told her how I feel). Time flies huh? That also mean that I did not see her for more than 100 days d.
My feeling to her right now is like kena AIDS like that, once infected, there isn't any cure (except miracle happen, where-by she gave me a chance)
Thats all for now.
With Love,
Ahboochak ♥
Anyway, to be frank wif all-of-ya, the reason am blogging today was because I'm now chatting back with Miss C :) After I gave her the X'Mas gift (Refer to: At least I've tried ♥♥♥), we didn't really talk ... well, I sms here, tarak reply. I msg her on MSN, also tarak reply, heh :P
For those who know me personally, I'm sure all of you know that am a guy who has control over myself but you know what? am still nervous whenever I chat with Miss C on MSN :(
If I were to distribe mahself & Miss C then it would be that "I am superman and she is my cryptonite" (I know it is spelled as Kryptonite, need not correct me. I purposely spell it this way)
*Sigh* It's been a while since am "love sick" like this and being a practical kinda guy like me, I think this is like the 1st time in my life that I actually make up my mind to wait for a girl who might not even give me a chance to get to know her better. I've been waiting for more than 100 days now (counting from the day I told her how I feel). Time flies huh? That also mean that I did not see her for more than 100 days d.
My feeling to her right now is like kena AIDS like that, once infected, there isn't any cure (except miracle happen, where-by she gave me a chance)
Thats all for now.
With Love,
Ahboochak ♥
Friday, February 27, 2009
Moments in Life ♥♥♥
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
When the door of happiness closes, another opens; But often times we look so long at the Closed door that we don't see the one, Which has been opened for us
Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, Because it takes only a smile to Make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.
Dream what you want to dream; Go where you want to go; Be what you want to be, Because you have only one life And one chance to do all the things You want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet Enough trials to make you strong, Enough sorrow to keep you human and Enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarily Have the best of everything; They just make the most of Everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always Be based on a forgotten past; You can't go forward in life until You let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying And everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, You're the one who is smiling and everyone Around you is crying.
appreciate those people Who mean something to you; To those who have touched your life in one way or another; To those who make you smile when you really need it; To those who make you see the Brighter side of things when you are really down; To those whose friendship you appreciate; To those who are so meaningful in your life.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens; But often times we look so long at the Closed door that we don't see the one, Which has been opened for us
Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, Because it takes only a smile to Make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.
Dream what you want to dream; Go where you want to go; Be what you want to be, Because you have only one life And one chance to do all the things You want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet Enough trials to make you strong, Enough sorrow to keep you human and Enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarily Have the best of everything; They just make the most of Everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always Be based on a forgotten past; You can't go forward in life until You let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying And everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, You're the one who is smiling and everyone Around you is crying.
appreciate those people Who mean something to you; To those who have touched your life in one way or another; To those who make you smile when you really need it; To those who make you see the Brighter side of things when you are really down; To those whose friendship you appreciate; To those who are so meaningful in your life.
This is THE MOMENTS IN OUR LIFE.
This is a very old pic (4 yrs ago?). See, I smile like a donkey :)
This is a very old pic (4 yrs ago?). See, I smile like a donkey :)
And oh ... the entry above is also another article I got from my forwarded mail :P
Tired of Life -♥♥♥
Have you ever felt tired of life?
This is what I felt at the current moment.
February 2009 is definitely one of the my worst month that I can remember.
Being home alone without any other family members;
Being single and not receiving love in return;
Being in KL-PJ without close friends that I use to hang out with;
and
Being stuck in a work that I couldn't find a solution;
Has resulted
to having my meals alone sometimes;
watching DVDs alone almost every night;
and looking blankly on my monitor screen.
Yeap, I am walking away ... I am walking away from all the troubles in my life as I am really really tired.
After being through all these, I've made up my mind to "disappear". I am going for my backpacking cum business journey that I've longed for. I am starting my journey earliest this coming tuesday, March 3, 2009 OR next weekend March 6, 2009.
The route would be,
KL-PJ -> Kelantan -> Perhentian Island -> Penang -> Hatyai -> Koh Samui -> Bangkok
I might go Krabi, Phuket and Chiangmai IF situation/my finance allow :D
How long would I disappear?
A month or 2 mths maybe? Depending on my budget :P
Anyway, not to worry, you can still reach me in facebook, my blog or email me :)
How can I be Mr. Sunshine that would bring smiles and laughter to my surrounding IF I myself couldn't even smile aight?
Taking a break from my current LIFE is what I need. Need to take a break to fix this broken heart.
This is what I felt at the current moment.
February 2009 is definitely one of the my worst month that I can remember.
- I had a misunderstanding which lead to an argument with one of my buddy, things has never been the same since then. It is heartbreaking cause from my point of view, the cause to this not even an issue at the first place. Perhaps I was wrong ...
- I've gotten into few more arguments with few of my other close friends which I think it weren't my fault to begin with. It is just them being emotional and all due to their work stress or perhaps relationship problem.
- The girl that I had a hard crush on. I've pursued every ways that I could think of to at least get close to her, but failed. I didn't even celebrate valentine day (cause I am being stubborn, I just want to celebrate it with her). Its like the more i tried, the further it went. You know what Miss C? I am tired and I am giving up d. Its almost 60 days since X'Mas. I will just accept the fact that I am just another ordinary bee that got into ur life and I am gonna move on now alrite?
- I've given up in changing someone's thought about me too. I don't know why she hated me so much (she might not, but that is what she makes me feel). I think I've tried my best to improve our relationship from enemy to at least "friend" ? I even said sorry for something I think I am not on the wrong but yet, her perspective about me did not change. *Sigh*
- My work, 1 of the project that I am handling is on a pending mode (as the client insist to co-operate). Hence, the payment is frozen too. I've taken every steps to make sure that the job move but failed.
- Another close friend of mine makes me feel that I am neglected. The reason was because he sorta found a girl of his life and he is trying hard to pursue for her until I felt that I am invisible. I understand that when one fall in love, they somehow turn blind but emm ... but being totally blind is another issue.
- I've just gotten into another miscommunication with another close friend of mine today. Its nothing. He asked me to meet up with this guy in Wangsa Maju to take something but I resisted not to coz it is way off my area. +I've always help this close friends of mine. I even drove down to LCCT on the same day twice for him. Its just that, I am too tired doing thing that is off my limit for this friend of mine all the time.
Being home alone without any other family members;
Being single and not receiving love in return;
Being in KL-PJ without close friends that I use to hang out with;
and
Being stuck in a work that I couldn't find a solution;
Has resulted
to having my meals alone sometimes;
watching DVDs alone almost every night;
and looking blankly on my monitor screen.
♥ Song of the Day ♥
Yeap, I am walking away ... I am walking away from all the troubles in my life as I am really really tired.
After being through all these, I've made up my mind to "disappear". I am going for my backpacking cum business journey that I've longed for. I am starting my journey earliest this coming tuesday, March 3, 2009 OR next weekend March 6, 2009.
The route would be,
KL-PJ -> Kelantan -> Perhentian Island -> Penang -> Hatyai -> Koh Samui -> Bangkok
I might go Krabi, Phuket and Chiangmai IF situation/my finance allow :D
How long would I disappear?
A month or 2 mths maybe? Depending on my budget :P
Anyway, not to worry, you can still reach me in facebook, my blog or email me :)
How can I be Mr. Sunshine that would bring smiles and laughter to my surrounding IF I myself couldn't even smile aight?
Taking a break from my current LIFE is what I need. Need to take a break to fix this broken heart.
Love all of you and always will ♥
Thursday, February 26, 2009
What is The Price of a Miracle? ♥♥♥
What is The Price of a Miracle?
Tess went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet. She poured all the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. She then slipped out the back door and made her way to the local drug store.
She waited patiently for the pharmacist to give her some attention but he was too busy at this moment. Tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise. Nothing. She cleared her throat with the most disgusting sound she could muster. No good. Finally she took a quarter from her jar and banged it on the glass counter. That did it!
"And what do you want?" the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of voice. "I'm talking to my brother from Chicago whom I haven't seen in ages," he said without waiting for a reply to his question. "Well, I want to talk to you about my brother," Tess answered back in the same annoyed tone. "He's really, really sick...and I want to buy a miracle." "I beg your pardon?" said the pharmacist. "His name is Andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head and my Daddy says only a miracle can save him now. So how much does a miracle cost?"
"We don't sell miracles here, little girl. I'm sorry but I can't help you," the pharmacist said, softening a little. "Listen, I have the money ! to pay for it. If it isn't enough, I will get the rest. Just tell me how much it costs." The pharmacist's brother was a well dressed man. He stooped down and asked the little girl, "What kind of a miracle does your brother need?"
"I don't know," Tess replied with her eyes welling up. "I just know he's really sick and Mommy says he needs an operation. But my Daddy can't pay for it, so I want to use my money". "How much do you have?" asked the man from Chicago. "One dollar and eleven cents," Tess answered barely audibly. "And it's all the money I have, but I can get some more if I need to."
"Well, what a coincidence," smiled the man. "A dollar and eleven cents - the exact price of a miracle for little brothers."
He took her money in one hand and with the other hand he grasped her mitten and said, "Take me to where you live. I want to see your brother and meet your parents. Let's see if I have the kind of miracle you need." That well dressed man was a surgeon, specializing in neuro-surgery. The operation was completed without charge and it wasn't long until Andrew was home again and doing well. Mom and Dad were happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place. "That surgery," her Mom whispered, "was a real miracle. I wonder how much it would have cost?
Tess smiled. She knew exactly how much a miracle cost...one dollar and eleven cents...plus the faith of a little child. A miracle is not the suspension of natural law, but the operation of a higher law...
This is to remind us that miracles happen every day, to each one of us. We just have to keep our eyes open and press on because, who knows, we may just be at the brink of a miracle!
Got it from 1 of the forwarded mail :) ♥
Tess went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet. She poured all the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. She then slipped out the back door and made her way to the local drug store.
She waited patiently for the pharmacist to give her some attention but he was too busy at this moment. Tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise. Nothing. She cleared her throat with the most disgusting sound she could muster. No good. Finally she took a quarter from her jar and banged it on the glass counter. That did it!
"And what do you want?" the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of voice. "I'm talking to my brother from Chicago whom I haven't seen in ages," he said without waiting for a reply to his question. "Well, I want to talk to you about my brother," Tess answered back in the same annoyed tone. "He's really, really sick...and I want to buy a miracle." "I beg your pardon?" said the pharmacist. "His name is Andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head and my Daddy says only a miracle can save him now. So how much does a miracle cost?"
"We don't sell miracles here, little girl. I'm sorry but I can't help you," the pharmacist said, softening a little. "Listen, I have the money ! to pay for it. If it isn't enough, I will get the rest. Just tell me how much it costs." The pharmacist's brother was a well dressed man. He stooped down and asked the little girl, "What kind of a miracle does your brother need?"
"I don't know," Tess replied with her eyes welling up. "I just know he's really sick and Mommy says he needs an operation. But my Daddy can't pay for it, so I want to use my money". "How much do you have?" asked the man from Chicago. "One dollar and eleven cents," Tess answered barely audibly. "And it's all the money I have, but I can get some more if I need to."
"Well, what a coincidence," smiled the man. "A dollar and eleven cents - the exact price of a miracle for little brothers."
He took her money in one hand and with the other hand he grasped her mitten and said, "Take me to where you live. I want to see your brother and meet your parents. Let's see if I have the kind of miracle you need." That well dressed man was a surgeon, specializing in neuro-surgery. The operation was completed without charge and it wasn't long until Andrew was home again and doing well. Mom and Dad were happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place. "That surgery," her Mom whispered, "was a real miracle. I wonder how much it would have cost?
Tess smiled. She knew exactly how much a miracle cost...one dollar and eleven cents...plus the faith of a little child. A miracle is not the suspension of natural law, but the operation of a higher law...
This is to remind us that miracles happen every day, to each one of us. We just have to keep our eyes open and press on because, who knows, we may just be at the brink of a miracle!
Got it from 1 of the forwarded mail :) ♥
Thursday, February 19, 2009
11-2 My Friendship Day ♥♥♥
♥Friendship - What does this word mean to you?
Here are some friendship quotes that I would like to share,
Last wednesday, February 11, 2009. I called some of my close buddies from Kokorobox.Net out for a get-together outing. Most of us has known each others for 2 to 3 yrs. Within that period, our friendship has grown to an extend that I took them like a part of my life.
The gathering was held in this restaurant called Kopi Oh! (located on the ground floor), Cineleisure D'sara.
Without further ado, I shall now show you pictures we took the on that day :)
Myself, Ah Wai & Ricky
Myself, Estee a.k.a Ms Bulat & Rocky a.k.a Pocki-Pang
And group picture for da' guys :)
We catch a movie, Bride WARS after having our dinner. It is a good pick for our Friendship Day as the movie highlighted the importance of friendship :)
Janice (our new friend) couldn't make it to join us for dinner but she could make it for the movie,
And this is our reaction when we saw her walking towards us :P
Myself and Janice
Don't know the answer? Maybe you could refer to this picture then? :P
Finally, I would like to tell all my friends (You know yourself) that I love You and May Our Friendship last 4eva aight? :)
Here are some friendship quotes that I would like to share,
The only way to have a friend is to be one - Ralph Waldo EmersonWith those quotes, I've learn to become a friend as they are the sunshine of my life and I treasured each and everyone of them.
Friends are the sunshine of life - John Hay
Who finds a faithful friend, finds a treasure - Jewish Saying
Last wednesday, February 11, 2009. I called some of my close buddies from Kokorobox.Net out for a get-together outing. Most of us has known each others for 2 to 3 yrs. Within that period, our friendship has grown to an extend that I took them like a part of my life.
The gathering was held in this restaurant called Kopi Oh! (located on the ground floor), Cineleisure D'sara.
Without further ado, I shall now show you pictures we took the on that day :)
Myself with Ricky a.k.a Devince
Myself and Cody a.k.a Karipop
Rocky a.k.a Pocki-Pang & Myself
Myself and Cody a.k.a Karipop
Rocky a.k.a Pocki-Pang & Myself
Myself, Ah Wai & Ricky
Myself, Estee a.k.a Ms Bulat & Rocky a.k.a Pocki-Pang
And group picture for da' guys :)
We catch a movie, Bride WARS after having our dinner. It is a good pick for our Friendship Day as the movie highlighted the importance of friendship :)
Janice (our new friend) couldn't make it to join us for dinner but she could make it for the movie,
And this is our reaction when we saw her walking towards us :P
Myself and Janice
Group photo after the movie ~♥
Guess who is missing in this picture? He is also the camera-man for this picture :D
Don't know the answer? Maybe you could refer to this picture then? :P
Finally, I would like to tell all my friends (You know yourself) that I love You and May Our Friendship last 4eva aight? :)
Monday, February 16, 2009
I miss YOU ♥♥♥
This is the 5th scroll that I've made for her as an X'Mas Gift ...
The date on the scroll stated until 22/12/2008 but I am in this condition and feeling this way until now. The last time I met her was on X'Mas day where I handed her the gifts.
Miss C, I Miss You .... ♥♥♥
The date on the scroll stated until 22/12/2008 but I am in this condition and feeling this way until now. The last time I met her was on X'Mas day where I handed her the gifts.
Miss C, I Miss You .... ♥♥♥
Sunday, February 15, 2009
The Day After V-Day :) ♥
Yo yo yo wazzup ?? :P LOL ... Its da' day after v-day !!! Hows your v-day celebration / date? Was it good? I hope so ♥♥♥
NOW I will talk about how I spend my Valentine Day (It is sorta like Frequently Asked Question for me yesterday and today)
Because I wanted to go on a date with HER only + she rejected my date offer for this v-day = I did not celebrate valentine day BUT that doesn't mean I couldn't have any other plan aight? :)
I joined a pot-luck house warming party organized by house mates and the party turn out to be much more enjoying than what I've expected :D Thanks to Miss Sexay Chan for organizing such a great event ♥♥♥ I've also changed my thought about Miss Sexay Chan from a serious headmistress to Miss Good Cook d thou. Well, I guess that is a "tiny" good little improvement aight? :)
As for my readers, I would post up the pictures in the near future (All the pictures are wif Ms. Bulat)
Since valentine is over edy, I will reduce my writing about ♥LOVe and start mixing it with the other blog elements in this blog, which is ♥Friendship & ♥Memories.
I would start of an introduction of the other elements with this short little story I've read a while back.
♥LOVe & ♥Friendship is a good buddies.
On this one fine day, both of them went hang-kaikai in ...
walk walk walk...
and ♥LOVe felt into the well,
WHY?
Because ♥LOVe is blind :)
Due to the incident, ♥Friendship jump into the well following ♥LOVe
WHY?
Because ♥Friendship can't live without ♥LOVe.
NOW I will talk about how I spend my Valentine Day (It is sorta like Frequently Asked Question for me yesterday and today)
Because I wanted to go on a date with HER only + she rejected my date offer for this v-day = I did not celebrate valentine day BUT that doesn't mean I couldn't have any other plan aight? :)
I joined a pot-luck house warming party organized by house mates and the party turn out to be much more enjoying than what I've expected :D Thanks to Miss Sexay Chan for organizing such a great event ♥♥♥ I've also changed my thought about Miss Sexay Chan from a serious headmistress to Miss Good Cook d thou. Well, I guess that is a "tiny" good little improvement aight? :)
As for my readers, I would post up the pictures in the near future (All the pictures are wif Ms. Bulat)
Since valentine is over edy, I will reduce my writing about ♥LOVe and start mixing it with the other blog elements in this blog, which is ♥Friendship & ♥Memories.
I would start of an introduction of the other elements with this short little story I've read a while back.
♥LOVe & ♥Friendship is a good buddies.
On this one fine day, both of them went hang-kaikai in ...
walk walk walk...
and ♥LOVe felt into the well,
WHY?
Because ♥LOVe is blind :)
Due to the incident, ♥Friendship jump into the well following ♥LOVe
WHY?
Because ♥Friendship can't live without ♥LOVe.
Quote of the Day
"However rare true love may be, it is less so than true friendship."
- La Rochefoucauld (1665)
Random Pic of the Day
(excuse me for the quality & size of this pic ya? Haven't got the original file from Bulat)
Comic Strip of the Day
"However rare true love may be, it is less so than true friendship."
- La Rochefoucauld (1665)
Random Pic of the Day
(excuse me for the quality & size of this pic ya? Haven't got the original file from Bulat)
Comic Strip of the Day
Saturday, February 14, 2009
My Confession 2 YOU ♥♥♥
*Yawn* *Blink Blink Mah Eyes* *Sigh*
Waking up in the morning on valentine day knowing that you didn't have the one for you yet could be quite .... emmm .... empty?
I sms-ed her Happy V-Day last night and she wishes me back in return. That is enough to make me happy, it is nothing much; but its more than enough for me at the current moment ♥
When I saw her sms this morning, it makes me feel like telling her how much I miss her, want her and love her; but that would make her feel uncomfy. Therefore, I've decided to make my confession here, on my blog (hoping she would read it) *pray*
Dear "YOU",
I know why I fall for you but I did not know why I fall so hard on you,
I don't know if this is love, or it was just a crush, but I know that you are a girl who I would want to spend my life with,
I want you to know that I miss you loads, wanting to have you in my life and given a chance to show you my love.
You told me you have other plan today when I asked you if i could be your date on v-day, if its a date then I wish you a great v-day date,
If the person you are going out with is a person you love, I hope he would feel the same way too,
I might not know you well enough but you seems to still live in the past that leave a scar in your life,
I would be more than happy if you could fall in love again, even if the lucky guy is not me :) (I wish it was me thou :P)
And I hope that lucky guy would know how lucky he is and appreciate you the way I would.
To "YOU", I want you to know that I love you, Je t'aime, Ti Amo, Sarang haeyo, Aishiteru and the list goes on.
Finally, I shall end this entry with my favourite song MV :) ♥
Waking up in the morning on valentine day knowing that you didn't have the one for you yet could be quite .... emmm .... empty?
I sms-ed her Happy V-Day last night and she wishes me back in return. That is enough to make me happy, it is nothing much; but its more than enough for me at the current moment ♥
When I saw her sms this morning, it makes me feel like telling her how much I miss her, want her and love her; but that would make her feel uncomfy. Therefore, I've decided to make my confession here, on my blog (hoping she would read it) *pray*
Dear "YOU",
I know why I fall for you but I did not know why I fall so hard on you,
I don't know if this is love, or it was just a crush, but I know that you are a girl who I would want to spend my life with,
I want you to know that I miss you loads, wanting to have you in my life and given a chance to show you my love.
You told me you have other plan today when I asked you if i could be your date on v-day, if its a date then I wish you a great v-day date,
If the person you are going out with is a person you love, I hope he would feel the same way too,
I might not know you well enough but you seems to still live in the past that leave a scar in your life,
I would be more than happy if you could fall in love again, even if the lucky guy is not me :) (I wish it was me thou :P)
And I hope that lucky guy would know how lucky he is and appreciate you the way I would.
To "YOU", I want you to know that I love you, Je t'aime, Ti Amo, Sarang haeyo, Aishiteru and the list goes on.
Comic Strip of the day
Quote of the day
Love is just a word until you meet someone that gives it a meaning ♥
Love is just a word until you meet someone that gives it a meaning ♥
Finally, I shall end this entry with my favourite song MV :) ♥
V-Day 143 ♥♥♥
Today is D-Day ... Opsss ... I mean V-Day ...
V-Day is Vinny (Vinspire's) Day !!! Eh ... NO !!! Emm ... Was it Vanilla Day? Violet Day? OR Vitagen Day? :P Haha ... Silly me ... V-Day is Valentine Day of coz. Right ??? :P
The day that is longed waited by a lot of us :)
First and foremost, I would like to wish everyone a Happy Valentine Day ? May you have a great valentine day this yr ... :)
I hope you would meet the person that you long awaited ... The one that is made for you from the god above, you for him and he is for you, she is your girl and you are her man, no one else in this world would do :) ???
For those who are getting married on this special, congratulations and the best of luck to you and your love ones.
Here are the recap of write-ups I've made about LOVe:-
Top hit reading:-
Finally, I shall end this entry with my favourite poem
V-Day is Vinny (Vinspire's) Day !!! Eh ... NO !!! Emm ... Was it Vanilla Day? Violet Day? OR Vitagen Day? :P Haha ... Silly me ... V-Day is Valentine Day of coz. Right ??? :P
The day that is longed waited by a lot of us :)
First and foremost, I would like to wish everyone a Happy Valentine Day ? May you have a great valentine day this yr ... :)
I hope you would meet the person that you long awaited ... The one that is made for you from the god above, you for him and he is for you, she is your girl and you are her man, no one else in this world would do :) ???
For those who are getting married on this special, congratulations and the best of luck to you and your love ones.
Here are the recap of write-ups I've made about LOVe:-
Top hit reading:-
- LOVe Potion No. 9 ♥♥♥
- Create your own fate ♥♥♥
- At least I've tried ♥♥♥
- Love = Happyness? ♥♥♥
- Love Hurt -♥♥♥
Finally, I shall end this entry with my favourite poem
If you love someone tell them,I Love You ♥; and "again", I would like to wish everyone a great valentine-day.
don't wait or else you will lose the chance.
To try is to risk failure,
but risk must be taken,
because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
Don't marry a person you can live with,
marry somebody you can't live without.
Love is like standing in the wet cement,
the longer you stay,
the harder it is to leave,
and you can never go without leaving your shoes behind.
The perfect marriage begins when each partner believes they got better than they deserve.
Kindness in words creates confidence,
kindness in thinking creates profoundness,
kindness in giving creates love.
xoxo,
♥♥♥ Joey T - 14 Feb 2009 ♥♥♥
♥♥♥ Joey T - 14 Feb 2009 ♥♥♥
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Love & Memories ♥♥♥
Markus Chung Yau Ng .... Who is this fella?
I don't know him, I've never met him, I've never even heard about his name before and to tell you frankly, i don't think I even bother who he is UNTIL the day that he left ...
Markus Chung Yau Ng OR also known as Markus Ng born in year 1985 and passed away suddenly in his sleep on February 04, 2009 at the age of 23.
Why would I write about this guy when I don't even know him?
The answer is simple, after bumping into few blogs that wrote about him; it leads me to his memorial site - http://markusng.memory-of.com/. That triggered my curiousity of what is so great about this young guy. I start reading up on what his friends said about him on their blogs; and also the memorial site tributed to him, I've then realized that he is a special person who touches the heart of those who know him OR those who didn't know him, such as myself.
Markus' story reminded me of a friend of mine which shared the same fate, Alfred Alfie. If I am not mistaken, he past away back in 2005. He is a very nice guy and well loved by all his friend. Bro, I am sorry I could not make it to your funeral but you are always in my mind, I hope you are doing well up there. Just FYI, things would never be the same after you've left. For Markus and Alfie, may both of you rest in peace, you are always in our heart and we will always remember you.
To Markus' friends, relatives etc, my great condolense to the big lost, I feel you :) I am sure all of us wish he is still alive right?
Sometimes I find it "funny" that god just have to take all these good people back in his arm instead of all those bad people who ruined people's life such as robbers, thiefs, rapist etc.
No matter what it is, this story has ensured me that "life is short", the only thing that stay on once you left is only memories. How you want to be remembered, it is all on your doing.
This is my 24th post on this blog (23th day blogging), after all the sharing that I've made and story about Markus, I've made up my mind that I would blog to share my thought on why i think that "life is good" and "love is beautiful". Blog traffics is no longer my concern, my main purpose on this blog now is to shared as much thought I had in life that might benefit/change the life of others to a better life.
Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile. - Albert Einstein.
If you like/dislike the direction of my blog,
If you like/dislike what I posted,
Please leave your opinion/feedback in my comment box for further sharing.
If you wish to share your story with others and you think it deserve its own post, do feel free to email me at Ahboochak@gmail.com. If i find it worth sharing, I will post it up k? ♥
Valentine Day is 2 days away, advice for those who failed to get a date on that day,
STOP WHINING and COMPLAINING, perhaps your time has not come. So, maybe you should take this opportunity to spend time with your single friends. Friendship love is also love you know?
Be a good boy and good girl, listen to Ahboochak and take the chance on this valentine to tell the people you love that you love them right? :)
I don't know him, I've never met him, I've never even heard about his name before and to tell you frankly, i don't think I even bother who he is UNTIL the day that he left ...
Markus Chung Yau Ng OR also known as Markus Ng born in year 1985 and passed away suddenly in his sleep on February 04, 2009 at the age of 23.
Why would I write about this guy when I don't even know him?
The answer is simple, after bumping into few blogs that wrote about him; it leads me to his memorial site - http://markusng.memory-of.com/. That triggered my curiousity of what is so great about this young guy. I start reading up on what his friends said about him on their blogs; and also the memorial site tributed to him, I've then realized that he is a special person who touches the heart of those who know him OR those who didn't know him, such as myself.
Markus' story reminded me of a friend of mine which shared the same fate, Alfred Alfie. If I am not mistaken, he past away back in 2005. He is a very nice guy and well loved by all his friend. Bro, I am sorry I could not make it to your funeral but you are always in my mind, I hope you are doing well up there. Just FYI, things would never be the same after you've left. For Markus and Alfie, may both of you rest in peace, you are always in our heart and we will always remember you.
To Markus' friends, relatives etc, my great condolense to the big lost, I feel you :) I am sure all of us wish he is still alive right?
Sometimes I find it "funny" that god just have to take all these good people back in his arm instead of all those bad people who ruined people's life such as robbers, thiefs, rapist etc.
No matter what it is, this story has ensured me that "life is short", the only thing that stay on once you left is only memories. How you want to be remembered, it is all on your doing.
This is my 24th post on this blog (23th day blogging), after all the sharing that I've made and story about Markus, I've made up my mind that I would blog to share my thought on why i think that "life is good" and "love is beautiful". Blog traffics is no longer my concern, my main purpose on this blog now is to shared as much thought I had in life that might benefit/change the life of others to a better life.
Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile. - Albert Einstein.
If you like/dislike the direction of my blog,
If you like/dislike what I posted,
Please leave your opinion/feedback in my comment box for further sharing.
If you wish to share your story with others and you think it deserve its own post, do feel free to email me at Ahboochak@gmail.com. If i find it worth sharing, I will post it up k? ♥
Valentine Day is 2 days away, advice for those who failed to get a date on that day,
STOP WHINING and COMPLAINING, perhaps your time has not come. So, maybe you should take this opportunity to spend time with your single friends. Friendship love is also love you know?
Be a good boy and good girl, listen to Ahboochak and take the chance on this valentine to tell the people you love that you love them right? :)
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
LOVE Abuse -♥♥♥
3 more days and its v-day, I hope most of you has gotten a date and plan-out what you wish to do with your date on that day :)
I believe I've written and share enough with the singles. So, I think it is time for me to talk about the couples, this sharing would be focusing more on the guys.
I've read about this topic titled BF an abuser, written by yvonne foong in Yellow Post, 2 yrs ago. The story is about BF being abusive, not physically BUT Emotionally. :)
The story summary is something like this:-
For those who is interested to find out more about this topic, you could google it up OR try reading up this page -> http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive.htm
The reason why I am highlighting this topic is because, 7 out of 10 man that I've known, has a man ego that will lead them to be a mental abuser in a relationship. I myself admit that I used to one of them, and I think this attitude is one of the main cause the failure of that relationship of mine.
One of the most common mental abuse tactic used by men is "silent treatment". Men also think they are right and expect the girls they love to read their mind or hearts BUT the truth is, how do you expect anyone to know why you are angry dude? Its even worst when you decided not to listen and not giving them a chance to even explain.
Emotional Abuse is as damaging as physical abuse, though it is often harder to recognize, and therefore to recover from. Emotional abuse causes long term self esteem issues and profound emotional repercussions for the partners of abusers. Abuse typically alternates with declarations of love and statements that they will change, providing a "hook" to keep the partner in the relationship.
Writing this entry is really depressing for me but I hope it would help a lot of people (especially guys) to realized if you are facing such problem or not. If you do, please take the chance to fix-it this valentine day aight? If you love her, why would you want to hurt her?
This entry is also applicable for girls.
If you love that person, treasure them - Joey T (11 Feb 2009) ♥♥♥
P/S: I am sorry if this post make you feel depress, I myself feel the pressure and depression. Its the sad truth that I know a lot of people hate to realize, but with this post, I hope I could make them realize and change it to happy result :)
I believe I've written and share enough with the singles. So, I think it is time for me to talk about the couples, this sharing would be focusing more on the guys.
*** WARNING ***
This is a sensitive entry, it might make you feel DEPRESS.
Therefore, read at your own risk. I am not responsible on any damaged done due to this entry is none of my responsibility aight? :)
*** WARNING ***
This is a sensitive entry, it might make you feel DEPRESS.
Therefore, read at your own risk. I am not responsible on any damaged done due to this entry is none of my responsibility aight? :)
*** WARNING ***
I've read about this topic titled BF an abuser, written by yvonne foong in Yellow Post, 2 yrs ago. The story is about BF being abusive, not physically BUT Emotionally. :)
The story summary is something like this:-
The BF controlled her life by setting curfew; stopping her from making friends with guy; reserved the weekend for him; and sometimes making her as his anger releasing sand-bag.Abusive relationships are characterized by extreme jealousy, emotional withholding, lack of intimacy, raging, sexual coercion, infidelity, verbal abuse, threats, lies, broken promises, physical violence, power plays and control games.
For those who is interested to find out more about this topic, you could google it up OR try reading up this page -> http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive.htm
The reason why I am highlighting this topic is because, 7 out of 10 man that I've known, has a man ego that will lead them to be a mental abuser in a relationship. I myself admit that I used to one of them, and I think this attitude is one of the main cause the failure of that relationship of mine.
One of the most common mental abuse tactic used by men is "silent treatment". Men also think they are right and expect the girls they love to read their mind or hearts BUT the truth is, how do you expect anyone to know why you are angry dude? Its even worst when you decided not to listen and not giving them a chance to even explain.
Emotional Abuse is as damaging as physical abuse, though it is often harder to recognize, and therefore to recover from. Emotional abuse causes long term self esteem issues and profound emotional repercussions for the partners of abusers. Abuse typically alternates with declarations of love and statements that they will change, providing a "hook" to keep the partner in the relationship.
Writing this entry is really depressing for me but I hope it would help a lot of people (especially guys) to realized if you are facing such problem or not. If you do, please take the chance to fix-it this valentine day aight? If you love her, why would you want to hurt her?
This entry is also applicable for girls.
If you love that person, treasure them - Joey T (11 Feb 2009) ♥♥♥
P/S: I am sorry if this post make you feel depress, I myself feel the pressure and depression. Its the sad truth that I know a lot of people hate to realize, but with this post, I hope I could make them realize and change it to happy result :)
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Love Hurt -♥♥♥
Love Hurt, ain't this words familiar to you? I've known some individuals that is afraid to fall in love again because they've hurt so much because of this word, LOVE.
Let me share with you my most hurtful experience with this word called LOVE.
Back in 2005, I've met this girl that I thought she would be the one for me. She is one of the nicest, loving and cutest looking girl that I've met in my whole life. Any of the guys who've seen her will think that she is an angel that dropped from the sky. She accepted me into her life on Feb 21, 2005 :) From that day she came into my life, we gone through a lot of up and down. People says love is blind, and I am definitely blinded at that moment. I gave up my business that my dad invested for me just to be with her and a lots more.
Anyway, due to our immature mindset at that period of time, we often come to misunderstanding which leads to argument.
Me, being the typical guy have my own man-pride/ego which is difficult for her to communicate with.
She, being the shy type of girl always surrender even before the arguement start.
After being through all the hardship and when everyone thought that we would last, disaster happen. I received a rumors that she is having an affair with one of my closest friend, a guy which I respected like a brother (At that time, he has a gf that is with him for 4 yrs+). I confronted both of them if the rumors are true as I don't feel good about it, coz both of them were the people I cared most for that period of time. Both of them told me that nothing happened, in fact she scolded me for not trusting her. The result of the confrontation is me breaking up with her; and not seeing my close friend anymore. 2 yrs+ relationship as easy as that.
The rumors still goes on, and I told those who spread such rumors that it is not true, I've asked them and I believe they won't do such thing to me (I still have that thought until now).
After 3 mths of our break-up, she finally admitted to me that the story was real and she told me the whole thing of what actually happened. The reason why she is telling all these to me now is because she is having problem with my close friend at that period of time and was very confuse.
I listened to her story, on how it happens and all without saying anything bad about it; instead I tried my best to make her feel better by sharing her an ear. After she finished telling me the story, they went back together. I've never "really" heard from her since then, and I've never seen my that friend anymore.
After the incident, I felt so bad and I kept thinking of why it happens ...
I recovered from the incident pretty fast, and I promised to be a better person. I found a new girl not long after the break-up. Anyhow, thing didn't go well too. I am a person who do not believe in long distant relationship. Therefore, I've asked her if she is going oversea anytime near future? She answered me that earliest would be 2009 or 2010. So, we coupled up on March 17, 2007.
Time past and god is playing trick on me again. She flew off after we've been in a relationship for half a year. I decided to wait for her since the day she flew away, until she told me that she might continue staying in the place she is now for the next 3 to 5 years or perhaps more. I broke up with her after half a yr of waiting. And guess what? She is now back in Malaysia for good. Few months after we broke up.
I've gotten myself into another relationship after that broke up, but I will write about in on my other post.
The main objective I am doing this sharing today is to tell you, my reader(s) that after all these, I still have faith in LOVE. If being in LOVE, is being in PAIN, I rather being in PAIN than not LOVING at all.
So, for those who is afraid to love again, I hope you could give yourself a chance to fall in love again this valentine day.
Valentine Day Countdown: 4 days to go ...
Let me share with you my most hurtful experience with this word called LOVE.
Back in 2005, I've met this girl that I thought she would be the one for me. She is one of the nicest, loving and cutest looking girl that I've met in my whole life. Any of the guys who've seen her will think that she is an angel that dropped from the sky. She accepted me into her life on Feb 21, 2005 :) From that day she came into my life, we gone through a lot of up and down. People says love is blind, and I am definitely blinded at that moment. I gave up my business that my dad invested for me just to be with her and a lots more.
Anyway, due to our immature mindset at that period of time, we often come to misunderstanding which leads to argument.
Me, being the typical guy have my own man-pride/ego which is difficult for her to communicate with.
She, being the shy type of girl always surrender even before the arguement start.
After being through all the hardship and when everyone thought that we would last, disaster happen. I received a rumors that she is having an affair with one of my closest friend, a guy which I respected like a brother (At that time, he has a gf that is with him for 4 yrs+). I confronted both of them if the rumors are true as I don't feel good about it, coz both of them were the people I cared most for that period of time. Both of them told me that nothing happened, in fact she scolded me for not trusting her. The result of the confrontation is me breaking up with her; and not seeing my close friend anymore. 2 yrs+ relationship as easy as that.
The rumors still goes on, and I told those who spread such rumors that it is not true, I've asked them and I believe they won't do such thing to me (I still have that thought until now).
After 3 mths of our break-up, she finally admitted to me that the story was real and she told me the whole thing of what actually happened. The reason why she is telling all these to me now is because she is having problem with my close friend at that period of time and was very confuse.
I listened to her story, on how it happens and all without saying anything bad about it; instead I tried my best to make her feel better by sharing her an ear. After she finished telling me the story, they went back together. I've never "really" heard from her since then, and I've never seen my that friend anymore.
After the incident, I felt so bad and I kept thinking of why it happens ...
- Would it be because I didn't love her enough?
- Was it because I am not loyal to her?
- Is my friend better than me?
- and the list goes on ...
I recovered from the incident pretty fast, and I promised to be a better person. I found a new girl not long after the break-up. Anyhow, thing didn't go well too. I am a person who do not believe in long distant relationship. Therefore, I've asked her if she is going oversea anytime near future? She answered me that earliest would be 2009 or 2010. So, we coupled up on March 17, 2007.
Time past and god is playing trick on me again. She flew off after we've been in a relationship for half a year. I decided to wait for her since the day she flew away, until she told me that she might continue staying in the place she is now for the next 3 to 5 years or perhaps more. I broke up with her after half a yr of waiting. And guess what? She is now back in Malaysia for good. Few months after we broke up.
I've gotten myself into another relationship after that broke up, but I will write about in on my other post.
The main objective I am doing this sharing today is to tell you, my reader(s) that after all these, I still have faith in LOVE. If being in LOVE, is being in PAIN, I rather being in PAIN than not LOVING at all.
So, for those who is afraid to love again, I hope you could give yourself a chance to fall in love again this valentine day.
Valentine Day Countdown: 4 days to go ...
Monday, February 9, 2009
Chap Goh Meh = Chinese Valentine Day ♥♥♥
Yay !!! Its the last day of Chinese New Year. Chap Goh Meh (The 15th Day) is also known as Chinese Valentine Day where young-single unmarried women gather to toss tangerines/oranges into the sea/river, in hope that their future spouse will pick up.
Hmmm ... I wonder how is she celebrating her chap goh meh :/
Is she gonna throw tangerines/oranges? If she is, where she gonna throw it? (Of coz I want to go and pick it up)
Hey, I tell you all a secret (which is not that "secret"), I manage to catch a short chat with her last night and I actually dream of her. Sweet huh? :) That is the most I could have asked for.
So, how is your Chinese Valentine Day or the actual Valentine Day preparation going on? Have you gotten yourself a date yet? :P
After realizing that today is Chap Goh Meh, I sneaked into the kitchen to kidnap some of the oranges stored in the fridge to work on something that would express how I feel now,
I miss you, heh :) ♥
NOW, I have to make sure I finish up these 4 oranges (as my mum is gonna make noise if she found out what I did to it). LOL ...
Hmmm ... I wonder how is she celebrating her chap goh meh :/
Is she gonna throw tangerines/oranges? If she is, where she gonna throw it? (Of coz I want to go and pick it up)
Hey, I tell you all a secret (which is not that "secret"), I manage to catch a short chat with her last night and I actually dream of her. Sweet huh? :) That is the most I could have asked for.
So, how is your Chinese Valentine Day or the actual Valentine Day preparation going on? Have you gotten yourself a date yet? :P
After realizing that today is Chap Goh Meh, I sneaked into the kitchen to kidnap some of the oranges stored in the fridge to work on something that would express how I feel now,
(Click on the image to enlarge it)
I miss you, heh :) ♥NOW, I have to make sure I finish up these 4 oranges (as my mum is gonna make noise if she found out what I did to it). LOL ...
Sunday, February 8, 2009
HATRED -♥♥♥
Hatred... its a word to describe intense feelings of dislike.
As the meaning of this word, its one of the word I dislike most.
Whats with all this hatred, peeps?
Love could be pain BUT I felt even more pain when I see hatred.
One of my believe in life is "We only live once, get the best out of it".
This is why I tried to filled my life with happiness and makes every moment worthwhile.
Malaysian politic is looking like a dirty chess board now, was it dirty because it is meant to be OR was it dirty because of the people?
Its my 20th day on blogosphere and I've realized something which I hated to admit but I'll have to accept; Malaysian Blog Community is as dirty as the current politic situation in Malaysia.
Was it Malaysia, Malaysian OR human mentality that cause all this hatred or politic to happen?
Can everyone be nice to each others?
Can people stop / don't spread bad rumors/gossips about each others?
Can everyone just be happy?
Can we be all be "a friend"?
These are something for all of you to ponder about.
As for me, I've decided to be the a happy me; Mr. Sunshine that will try my best to brighten my surrounding from "the darkness of hatred" with "the beauty of love" and "light of happyness".
I choose to be different, I choose to make a different; What about you? :) ♥
As the meaning of this word, its one of the word I dislike most.
Whats with all this hatred, peeps?
Love could be pain BUT I felt even more pain when I see hatred.
One of my believe in life is "We only live once, get the best out of it".
This is why I tried to filled my life with happiness and makes every moment worthwhile.
Malaysian politic is looking like a dirty chess board now, was it dirty because it is meant to be OR was it dirty because of the people?
Its my 20th day on blogosphere and I've realized something which I hated to admit but I'll have to accept; Malaysian Blog Community is as dirty as the current politic situation in Malaysia.
Was it Malaysia, Malaysian OR human mentality that cause all this hatred or politic to happen?
Can everyone be nice to each others?
Can people stop / don't spread bad rumors/gossips about each others?
Can everyone just be happy?
Can we be all be "a friend"?
These are something for all of you to ponder about.
As for me, I've decided to be the a happy me; Mr. Sunshine that will try my best to brighten my surrounding from "the darkness of hatred" with "the beauty of love" and "light of happyness".
I choose to be different, I choose to make a different; What about you? :) ♥
Word of advice for today
Why choose HATE, when you can LOVE? - Joey, 7 February 2009
Comic Strip for the day
Song of the Day
Song of the Day
Saturday, February 7, 2009
I is EMO, are you? -♥♥♥
Tick tick tick ... The time is tickling,
Tick tick tock ... Its the sound of rain hitting my rooftop.
Its been wet the past few days, wet as in rain, u know :/
And I hate rainy days, it limit things I could do,
And I hate rainy days coz it reminds me of things I don't want to.
Time definitely pass very fast yo,
Its 7 February, 2009 edi,
Next weekend is valentine day edi lu .... A week from now aje.
No wonder am feeling like my life is kinda empty,
No wonder I felt that my life is less colorful,
No wonder I don't feel the warm in my heart,
Ha ... but I guess I am not the only one who feel this way,
that should make me feel a little better :D
As my life is filled with joy & fun, friends and lotsa activities (most of the time),
This is the first time am feeling this way,
I hate this feeling, it makes me emo :(
I guess Mr. Sunshine like me need ♥ too.
Currently listening to,
Babyface - Loneliness
Comic strip of the day
Quote of the Day
Tick tick tock ... Its the sound of rain hitting my rooftop.
Its been wet the past few days, wet as in rain, u know :/
And I hate rainy days, it limit things I could do,
And I hate rainy days coz it reminds me of things I don't want to.
Time definitely pass very fast yo,
Its 7 February, 2009 edi,
Next weekend is valentine day edi lu .... A week from now aje.
No wonder am feeling like my life is kinda empty,
No wonder I felt that my life is less colorful,
No wonder I don't feel the warm in my heart,
Ha ... but I guess I am not the only one who feel this way,
that should make me feel a little better :D
As my life is filled with joy & fun, friends and lotsa activities (most of the time),
This is the first time am feeling this way,
I hate this feeling, it makes me emo :(
I guess Mr. Sunshine like me need ♥ too.
Currently listening to,
Babyface - Loneliness
Comic strip of the day
Quote of the Day
Nobody To Love, Nobody To Care, Nobody To Look Forward To.This is what i called as EMO. "I is EMO, are you?"
Sick of Holding Back My Love, Sick of Being Pushed Around, Sick of Fate, Sick of Faith, Sick of Everything.
Sick of being a Nice Guy ... arhhss ... Fork It !!!
Thursday, February 5, 2009
KNOW & REALIZE ♥♥♥
Back to my LOVE Series write-up :)
Today's post was inspired by kylie's comment on the post entitled "At least I've tried ♥♥♥". Here is the recap of her post:-
This post is the toughest post I am making in this blog. So, read carefully and try to understanding where I am coming from.
KNOW is to perceive or understand as fact or truth; to apprehend clearly and with certainty and REALIZE is to grasp or understand clearly.
We as a guy, especially the alpha male. We always thought we "know" and most of the time we failed to "realize".
I will elaborate this point with a common scenarios that almost all of us has been in,
YES, you know you are doing it because you want to, and wanting them to be happy, but did you realize that your good doing "might" give the opposite feeling such as; bad or perhaps sad?
To some of you, this post might sounds kinda contradicting with what I've said previously. That was because in the previous post, I am supporting everyone to give a try but in this post, i sorta said that you should give up.
This topic is very subjective and the main purpose of me making this post is to make sure everyone REALIZE this thin line between KNOW and REALIZE. You are the only one who know best about the situation.
So, make the right choice okie? KNOW what to do and REALIZE the situation :)
P.S: Thanks kylie for reminding me about the existence of this thin line between KNOW and REALIZE. :)
P.P.S: REALIZE came from the world REAL. So, be REAL, stay in REALITY. ;)
Today's post was inspired by kylie's comment on the post entitled "At least I've tried ♥♥♥". Here is the recap of her post:-
This post is the toughest post I am making in this blog. So, read carefully and try to understanding where I am coming from.
KNOW is to perceive or understand as fact or truth; to apprehend clearly and with certainty and REALIZE is to grasp or understand clearly.
- You KNOW your parents love you but you don't REALIZE how much they love you.
- You KNOW you are smart but you don't REALIZE how smart you are.
- You KNOW you are gifted but you did not REALIZE about it.
- They would do anything to get the person's attention
- They would go through every way/method to get that person
- They turn into somebody else they themselves do not know
- They would do everything they "think" would make the person happy
- and the list goes on.
We as a guy, especially the alpha male. We always thought we "know" and most of the time we failed to "realize".
I will elaborate this point with a common scenarios that almost all of us has been in,
When someone rejected us,We KNOW the reason of our action and we failed to REALIZED that the other person might not know or might not be able to accept.
We still treat them well, sometimes even without asking anything for return. Give all, expect none.
We still keep in touch and contact them to show them that we are true.
YES, you know you are doing it because you want to, and wanting them to be happy, but did you realize that your good doing "might" give the opposite feeling such as; bad or perhaps sad?
To some of you, this post might sounds kinda contradicting with what I've said previously. That was because in the previous post, I am supporting everyone to give a try but in this post, i sorta said that you should give up.
This topic is very subjective and the main purpose of me making this post is to make sure everyone REALIZE this thin line between KNOW and REALIZE. You are the only one who know best about the situation.
So, make the right choice okie? KNOW what to do and REALIZE the situation :)
P.S: Thanks kylie for reminding me about the existence of this thin line between KNOW and REALIZE. :)
P.P.S: REALIZE came from the world REAL. So, be REAL, stay in REALITY. ;)
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Change SEX, for LOVE? ♥♥♥
Okie, I am gonna take a break for my "LOVE Series" today because I have something interesting to share with you all.
This is the column from "Dear Thelma" entitled Boy, girl, boy... confusion reigns in the Star on 1st February 2009.
So, what say you?
After reading this, the only thing that come into my mind is as the picture below,
Cut your GUGU-ciao & be wif me, else, I will pull it until PUTUS :P
P/S: The image is for illustration purpose only, no offense ya? ;)
This is the column from "Dear Thelma" entitled Boy, girl, boy... confusion reigns in the Star on 1st February 2009.
A few years back, I was studying in a college with B. She only hangs out with girls and is an outgoing person. Everyone called her B but she was not bothered as she was very smart.And here is the reply,
We didn’t mix much, just nodding our heads when we bumped into each other on campus. After our college days, we parted and went different ways. With my exam results I couldn’t get a very decent job so I decided to become a computer salesman. One day I walked into a big firm to sell my stuff, and there was B holding a big post. She recognised me straight away and asked me out for a drink at night. I met up with her and she offered me a job – to be her “wife” and take care of things at home! In case it’s not clear, I am a guy.
B offered me a four-figure salary, free accommodation, a car and other perks. I asked her why, and she said she dislikes men, but she had to be married (and stay married) to get her inheritance. B said I fit the bill because I look kinda girlish (I am slim, tall and only slightly muscular) and that’s precisely what she likes.
After a few meetings with B, we settled on the payment, and she gave me an advance on that four-figure salary. Later, we got ourselves registered so that B could get her inheritance money credited into her account every month. Initially, I didn’t sleep with B because she would always be sleeping with her girlfriends in the master bedroom.
Everything was going fine for one year. Then B told me that her girlfriends didn’t like men in the house, and so B asked me to become a “she-male”. After some thought, I agreed and started wearing women’s clothes. After taking hormone pills for some time, I now even have size 32 breasts.
With my tall, slim frame, I really look feminine and very beautiful. No one will guess I am a man. Now I sleep with B in the room and with her girlfriends. A few years have passed. B and I have a wonderful relationship and we don’t have children. We are very well off and my bank balance is fat because I dont spend money at all. Meanwhile, B just banks money into my account.
The problem now is that B wants me to have a sex change operation. B says she will pay for it as she has fallen in love with me. I do not want to do that. I love the way I am now. But I also love B very much. I just don’t know if what I am doing is right or wrong and I don’t know where this relationship is headed. Will it end one day like a contract? Should I go for the sex change operation? Please advice, Thelma. I really don’t know what to do.
Lost in the World of Bi
If your story is for real, then you are living a bad movie script. And perhaps the end will be as you see it. You’re a man trapped in a woman’s body with no future and no love. You started out with greed. B offered you easy money and you succumbed. Then you allowed yourself to be lured into her kinky lifestyle. You seemed to have enjoyed it and you even admired your new, feminine beautiful form. But B’s request that you actually undergo a sex change rings alarm bells.Source: http://thestar.com.my/lifestyle/story.asp?file=/2009/2/1/lifefocus/3153075&sec=lifefocus
You suddenly feel insecure about your future because there will be no turning back. If your partner wishes to dump you, what will happen to you? You don’t really want to be a woman. Living a decadent, hedonistic lifestyle is good for only a short time. Eventually, you need to face life’s realities and make a choice. B married you for her own reasons. It was a contractual relationship even though she believes she is now in love with you. But this love comes with yet another condition. You need to change your body to suit her needs.
This woman bought your soul and now she wants your body. Are you prepared to sell out your life? Or do you have the guts to leave and be your own person again? Greed in its various forms can turn vile and vicious. You should know B well enough. Does she understand and respect love?
Do you trust a future with her? If you have doubts and fears, then take heed. You have the most to lose in this relationship.
So, what say you?
After reading this, the only thing that come into my mind is as the picture below,
Cut your GUGU-ciao & be wif me, else, I will pull it until PUTUS :P
P/S: The image is for illustration purpose only, no offense ya? ;)
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Love = Happyness? ♥♥♥
2 days ago, my buddy and I was having a discussion about the post I made last night which is,
1. Love can't be force. No matter what you do, things will never change
OR
2. If you showed enough sincerity, have enough faith, you "might" be able to change the fate.
OR
2. If you showed enough sincerity, have enough faith, you "might" be able to change the fate.
As usual, I do most of the talking part as this buddy of mine is a quiet type of guy which is not so good with words but that night, he has said something that makes me think. It is something that everyone knows about it but not everybody realize about it.
He said it with his soft and slow tone,
Joey, in the end of the day, you just want the person you love to be happy right?I kept quiet for a moment before i responded to him with a laugher,
Hahah, yeap. I guess thats all that matter. Life is short.
That short huh? :) ♥(Click on the pic to enlarge the pic)
Love doesn't make the world go round, Love is what make the ride worthwhile ♥
If you are unable to "receive", learn the art of "giving" and you'll find the "happyness" in it - Joey Tong, February 2, 2009
Monday, February 2, 2009
At least I've tried ♥♥♥
This post is like the sequel post for yesterday,
I am sure a lot of people would say,
Joey, it is easier to say than done.
Joey, it is easy for you to say.
Joey, the girl don't like me. How?
Joey, this ... and Joey, that.
First and foremost, nobody said it is gonna be easy right?
Let me share with you what I've did for the girl that I currently fall head over heels :)
I've met her in an event on Dec 10, 2008. It wasn't love at first sight, when I first saw her, I thought that she is a very cute looking girl and her smile is one of the prettiest smile I've seen my whole life.
I then got to know more about her through MSN Chat. She is no doubt a very nice girl that her life was ruined by a bad relationship and thought she will never love again.
The 2nd time I met her was on 18 dec 2008, We catched a movie about the forbidden love between a vampire and human, The Twilight. During the show, I took a quick look at her a few times during the movie. Her smile would definitely melt any guys who looks at it. It is so sad that such an angel like her is afraid with this beautiful thing called love.
After the movie, I realized I just could not take my mind off of her. I sms-ed and called her but the respond weren't good. So, I thought she needed some space in her life and don't wish anyone to come near her broken heart. Therefore, I've decided to give her a christmas present (as it is just around the corner)
I bought a snow globe, I bought an x'mas greeting cards, some A4 colored papers and other stationary needed for the gift I thought that it would show my sincerity. I drafted what I am gonna do and thanks to my smart idea, I end up spending 5 hrs of my life working on the customized greeting card. Anyway, i guess the 5 hrs are all worth it, at least i know that I've spent this 5 hrs doing something I've never did before to someone I had a hard crush on.
This is the quick look of my 5 hrs hardwork :P
(Click on the image for a larger version)
I gave her the gift on christmas as planned but I guess things doesn't goes as what I plan. Instead of getting a better treatment from her, I think the whole thing backfired backed at me. She treated me even colder. Well, I can't blame her. At least she is trying to be nice by rejecting me indrectly.
I tried talking to her on MSN,
I tried sms-ing her but there isn't any reply.
Jan 30, 2009 is the day I sent her my last SMS asking her if I could be her date for valentine day and she replied my that specific sms today (Feb 1, 2009) saying that she has a plan on v-day :(
Many of my friends are asking me to give up as they said "feeling can't be force, if she doesn't have a feeling for you, no matter what you did, she will never feel the same".
BUT what about those who really have fate and hopes that she/he will feel the same way one day?
Those that cross the sea and walk across the fire for the love that they dreamt for?
Those that they believed in it so much, they waited for 7 years to have them accepting them into their life? Was it miracles? Was it all because of hardwork? I guess nobody know except the god almighty :)
Look into the video below to find out my answer.
So, if you have the same philosophy as me that LOVE is LIFE. Just work for the LOVE you believe coz what is LIFE without LOVE aight? ♥ :)
I am sure a lot of people would say,
Joey, it is easier to say than done.
Joey, it is easy for you to say.
Joey, the girl don't like me. How?
Joey, this ... and Joey, that.
First and foremost, nobody said it is gonna be easy right?
Let me share with you what I've did for the girl that I currently fall head over heels :)
I've met her in an event on Dec 10, 2008. It wasn't love at first sight, when I first saw her, I thought that she is a very cute looking girl and her smile is one of the prettiest smile I've seen my whole life.
I then got to know more about her through MSN Chat. She is no doubt a very nice girl that her life was ruined by a bad relationship and thought she will never love again.
The 2nd time I met her was on 18 dec 2008, We catched a movie about the forbidden love between a vampire and human, The Twilight. During the show, I took a quick look at her a few times during the movie. Her smile would definitely melt any guys who looks at it. It is so sad that such an angel like her is afraid with this beautiful thing called love.
After the movie, I realized I just could not take my mind off of her. I sms-ed and called her but the respond weren't good. So, I thought she needed some space in her life and don't wish anyone to come near her broken heart. Therefore, I've decided to give her a christmas present (as it is just around the corner)
I bought a snow globe, I bought an x'mas greeting cards, some A4 colored papers and other stationary needed for the gift I thought that it would show my sincerity. I drafted what I am gonna do and thanks to my smart idea, I end up spending 5 hrs of my life working on the customized greeting card. Anyway, i guess the 5 hrs are all worth it, at least i know that I've spent this 5 hrs doing something I've never did before to someone I had a hard crush on.
This is the quick look of my 5 hrs hardwork :P
(Click on the image for a larger version)
I gave her the gift on christmas as planned but I guess things doesn't goes as what I plan. Instead of getting a better treatment from her, I think the whole thing backfired backed at me. She treated me even colder. Well, I can't blame her. At least she is trying to be nice by rejecting me indrectly.
I tried talking to her on MSN,
I tried sms-ing her but there isn't any reply.
Jan 30, 2009 is the day I sent her my last SMS asking her if I could be her date for valentine day and she replied my that specific sms today (Feb 1, 2009) saying that she has a plan on v-day :(
Many of my friends are asking me to give up as they said "feeling can't be force, if she doesn't have a feeling for you, no matter what you did, she will never feel the same".
BUT what about those who really have fate and hopes that she/he will feel the same way one day?
Those that cross the sea and walk across the fire for the love that they dreamt for?
Those that they believed in it so much, they waited for 7 years to have them accepting them into their life? Was it miracles? Was it all because of hardwork? I guess nobody know except the god almighty :)
So, what do you believe?
1. Love can't be force. No matter what you do, things will never change
OR
2. If you showed enough sincerity, have enough faith, you'll be able to change the fate.
I've written a lot for today. So, I will just end this post with this famous question that my friends always ask me, "Joey, what is love ?"1. Love can't be force. No matter what you do, things will never change
OR
2. If you showed enough sincerity, have enough faith, you'll be able to change the fate.
My answer for it is, I believe that if we put enough hardwork + spent enough time to show my sincerity. I "STILL" stand a chance to bring the fate on my side. Well, if things doesn't work out, I still get to say "At least, I've tried my best" :)
Words of the Day
Words of the Day
For every failure, there's an alternative course of action.
You just have to find it.
When you come to a roadblock, take a detour.
Mary Kay Ash
Look into the video below to find out my answer.
So, if you have the same philosophy as me that LOVE is LIFE. Just work for the LOVE you believe coz what is LIFE without LOVE aight? ♥ :)
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oh well, not all girls can stand persistent guys..some will think that those kind of guys are annoying... if she can't accept love right now, why don't you be her friend first? rather than pushing her, give her some space :D give her some time to miss you..sometimes being too available for her is not a good thing...